How to Forgive and Forget

To forgive another is the greatest favor you can do... for yourself

• Take the initiative. Don't wait for the other person to apologize.
• If the forgiven person wants to reenter your life, it is far to demand truthfulness. He should be made to understand, to feel the hurt you've felt. Then you should expect a sincere promise that you won't be hurt that way again.
• Be patient. If the hurt is deep, you can't forgive in a single instant.
• Forgive "retail" not "wholesale". It is almost impossible to forgive someone for being a bad person. Instead focus on the particular act that hurt you. (It might help if you write it down)
• Don't expect too much. To forgive doesn't mean you must renew a once-closed relationship.
• Discard your self-righteousness. A victim is not a saint, You, too will need forgiveness someday.
• Separate anger from from hate. To dissolve your hate, face your emotion and accept it as natural, then discuss it, either with the object of your hatred (if you can do without escalating your hatred) or with a trusted third party.
• Forgive yourself. This may be the hardest act of all. Candor is critical. Admit your fault. Then be concrete and specific about what is bothering you. Remember; your deed was evil, you are not.

A chocolatey day

I found this as a remedy for my extreme sadness and stressed for an unknown reason.. Hope this won't lead to depression. So help me God.

Regrets

Do not say " I have no regrets". Regret is inevitable; life hurts. The trick, my dear friend, is not minding that it hurt.

A Single Mom's Prayer

My God, I have such a wonderful child, a most precious gift I do not deserve. My heart melts into joy each time he looks at me, each time he calls me “Mommy“. He would embrace me and kiss me and all my troubles will disappear in a moment. Nothing else matters except his laughter and the brightness of his eyes. You know I would give him everything. I would give him the world if I can only do it. Gladly would I sacrifice everything for him, even my own life if need be so.

He brought me hope, he gave my life direction and a meaning I’ve never known before. Surely Lord, You have saved me through this child. Through him You have made known to me how much You love me.

But I am not worthy O God. I feel so incapable of taking care of your most beautiful gift to me. For what can I possibly give this child? My failures? My brokenness? My shameful past? What can I teach this child? How can I mold him into the person he was meant to be?  What shall a single mom like me pray?

Yet You gave him to me, You’ve brought him unto my cold and shaking hands. Surely You must know my weaknesses, yet You must have also known I would call upon you to help me and to provide for the things I cannot do.

Help me O God. Heal me of my wounds so I may not pass on to Him my bitterness. Heal me of my insecurities that I may teach him how to have confidence on himself. Blot out my sins that he may not be cursed for mistakes he wasn’t even aware of, and so that he can have a wonderful future ahead of him. Fill my heart with love even if I’m all alone. For how can I possibly give away that which I do not have? It is not easy indeed to be a single mom. Grant me wisdom. Grant me strength to face a harsh world so I can provide for him and give him everything he needs. Say unto me Lord that I am not alone for You will be my Husband, and You yourself will be his Father. This child is blessed, this I know, and I thank You for all that You have ever done and all that You have in store for us from Your boundless mercy and unceasing love.

A day in Tandag City

Tandag Boulevard: A view from Shacene by the sea

San Ncolas de Tolentino Cathedral (old church)

Goldbar Restaurant ( Seafood Restaurant in Tandag)

Laswitan Lagoon

Laswitan lagoon is located in Cortes, Surigao del Sur. It takes a 9kilometers motorcycle ride from the Cortes junction. It is best to arrange your travel with the Municipal Tourism Office of Cortes so you can visit other attractions near Laswitan. 

Laswitan is a salt-water lake. You can see huge rock formations along the shoreline that created three basins that makes it look like a lake, also high waves will create a waterfall-like in the rock formations. The place is best visited in months of November to March.

the tarp located in the junction of Cortes

the second basin where people swim. It is 15ft deep

All in all I enjoyed the rock formations and swimming of course. Thanks to my friends Lifeiz and Rambu for the company.

Hongkong Disneyland (Day 3 in Hongkong)

I am very excited in our third day in Hongkong as we planned to visit Disneyland for a whole day tour. We are not having a hard time in getting there as it is just a train ride away from the hotel we stayed and the MTR station is just a block away from the hotel.

finally.. :)

I feel 15 years younger than my age

day pass tickets and park guides.. this is it!

tomorrowland

oh I love stitch.. :)

my castle.. jk

tarzan

We spent the rest of our night in Mongkok night market to buy pasalubong. It is more like Divisoria in Manila. :)